well, it was..
lucas decided he's not quite ready now for the potty. but i'm glad he gave it a go, though.. i trust he'll try again when he's ready to handle all the attendant factors. he's usually successful if he doesnt have to deal with his pants,,, i think he got tired of getting wet at home, and he doesnt have the holding power muscles built up yet. because it is pretty cold already here (48F/6C today), and not the best season to run around nude. maybe he will try it out next summer. i hear it's the best time to train!
ruby news is that she's cruising now, and also just started pushing the walker toys around too. with ruby i am now starting to understand that we as parents dont have a whole lot to do with the way a kid's personality is.. i am merely an observer & a human safety cone. i guess what im sayin is that now that im a parent, i'm becoming a true believer in nature over nurture in the eternal argument.
posted by bb @ 1:04 PM
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well, i agree up to a point. do you really think, for instance, that a violent, dsyfunctionsl, chaotic, poverty-ridden noisy household could ever produce a personable, calm, level-headed, prosperous adult???
maybe but not likely. or could a calm, prosperous, orderly two-parent home produce a wild child who robs banks or otherwise takes on a personality disorder of dishonesty, crime and violence?
again i say maybe but not likely. i think nurture is a factor. that's my two cents worth and i'm stickin' to it. so there.
mom
i think we agree on the statistics, but i read in freakonomics about how studies tend to show it's WHO you are to start with (pre-parent), than HOW you actually perform as a parent.
a pair of bookworms is likely to have lots of books and show by example a life of reading
~so, of course nurture does have a role by giving likely outlets for our various needs (eg. violence vs. writing), but it is nature that dictates personality~
but my original point (that i didnt elaborate on) is that ruby's personality is turning out SO MUCH different than lucas', and their environment is one in the same!.. it is not our environment who "made" her the way she is,, rather our genes.
as noted: lucas is shy and contemplative & serious.. always watches carefully before attempting to do it; whereas ruby is assertive, talkative and laughing .. when she sees something to do, she goes for it without thinking about it.
Well I'm coming up with 0 cents...
I don't believe in the nature argument, because I have never met 2 siblings that have identical personalities. In fact, I have never met 2 people with identical personalities.
Nor do I believe in the nurture argument, because you are not destined to act like your parents. I have yet to get physically violent when frusturated, even though I received violent treatment countless times during my childhood during frusturating times.
That all being said, I think sometimes you can spend too much time analyzing life and not enough time actually living it.
my comment is about the potty training/learning. i am faced with a similar situation. we are sort of casually working on it when we are at home, but it is so true that the cold weather makes it a lot harder. i just don't feel right letting cosmo run around with no pants on when it's so cold.
thanks for commenting on my blog. i don't remember posting on cat power's blog. do you mean the musician? or someone else? in any case, i don't remember. i just assumed we had mutual houston (blogging) friends.
i'll be checking in with your blog now too.
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